Making the Right Decisions and Living Them
By: Nanju Francisco
Making a decision is an integral part of our lives. Everyday, from the moment we open our eyes, we all have to make decisions one way or the other: What are we going to eat for breakfast? What are we going to wear to the office? What are we going to do after office hours? What are we going to have for dinner, etc.? Life, therefore, is a continuous decision-making process.
A number of people can easily make decisions. It is natural for them to decide at once without giving it second thoughts. However, there are some people who find it so difficult to arrive to a decision. They spend countless hours and even days thinking of what to do and still could not come up with a final decision.
The biggest problem actually lies after we made a decision: What happens next? Where do we go from there? How are we going to take the consequences of our decisions? Are we really ready to face the challenges that go with our decisions?
Coming up with a decision is daunting; living it makes it more challenging. The following are baby steps to making the right decisions and living them:
- Think twice or even ten times before making a decision – You may get bored thinking about the same thing over and over again but at least, you would have considered all the possible options you have at hand. Besides, this will give you a chance to change your decision, if you have not made the right one yet from the start.
- Accept the decision you have made once you made them – Once you have made up your mind on what to do, there is no turning back. Accept the fact that you want to do it. Learning to accept your decision is becoming realistic. This will teach you to better understand yourself and the things you want in life. Remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
- Accept the consequences that go with your decision – After accepting your decision, you must also learn to welcome the consequences that go with it. For instance, you decided to quit your boring job. After resigning from your job, you should not forget the end results that go with that decision –meaning, there will be gloomy days ahead, doing nothing or just killing time and no income is forthcoming. You must bear the consequences of your decision to quit your job. Therefore, you must learn to evaluate every decision you made and accept their consequences.
- Don’t let anyone influence your decision – Never ever let anyone make the decision for you. After all, it is your life! It is your affair and your neck at stake so no one, under all circumstances, should dictate you what to do with your life. You must not let anyone decide on your behalf because if you do so, you might regret it later. What others might think is good for you, may not really be the best for you. It is what you think that counts and that’s the most important thing of all. Your turf, your rules.
- Solicit advice but decide on your own – Sure, it is good to seek advice from people who are experienced and mature. They will provide you with good insights and words of wisdom. But then again, after evaluating everything, you must decide on your own. Whatever happens in the end, it is you who made the decision and no one else.
- Don’t blame yourself or anyone if your decision fails – What if the decision you made was a big flop or failure? Would you start blaming others or yourself for this wrong decision? You cannot correct a mistake by adding insult to injury. The most important thing to remember is not to point a finger on yourself or to anyone else. After all, you thought about it for so long, didn’t you? Things don’t always happen the way we would like them to. That’s life, so learn to move on. Remember, count not what you have lost but what you still have. Instead of crying over spilled milk, ask yourself: “What went wrong with my decision? What is the moral lesson here? What should I do to improve the present situation? How can I avoid this mistake in the future?”
By asking yourself these questions, you are becoming wiser, realistic and more mature. At the same time, you are on your way to becoming a “responsible decision-maker.”
Remember, nobody is perfect! We all commit mistakes, one way or the other. Life is a series of mistakes, trials and obstacles. The key here is to accept yourself and the decisions you make. This will provide you with determination and wisdom you need to make the right choices and decisions in life.
So go ahead, make a decision now and stick to it. Life is fun when you make good decisions that could alter your life for the better!